It is a common thing for people to confuse these two things. Lust is a very real and an all consuming feeling. When you are lustful toward someone, it can sometimes feel like love. Heart in the toilet is often sent dilemmas about feeling one and not the other. I remember one lady was in an arranged marriage and her culture had suggested people will grow into love. There have also been many people say they have fallen out of love, that they are not attracted to their partner anymore and that the lust has gone. Familiarity breeds contempt. It is up to every couple to keep it fresh and new. It is up to every individual to wake up every day and make their partner in life happy. Yes we have off days, yes we have work, life and children that seemingly 'interrupt' our opportunities at having relationship bliss. But it is possible. When you flick through a magazine, you might find many of the people you see attractive, you may lust after them, but rarely do we confuse that feeling of attraction with true love.
Years ago when a partner betrayed me, I remember a lady I worked with said "he just needed an ego boost". Another friend said "a relationship that has started by breaking up another, will never last". I guess most of all from being cheated on, I realised I was with the wrong person. No one cheats if everything in a relationship is going well. At the same time, I do think some couples can recover from infidelity. It is a sign that the relationship is ill. You need to tend to relationships like a lush garden. Give them plenty of water, sunshine and maintenance. You must care for your coupledom, it won't take care of itself. Love must be nurtured and lust is just an added bonus, like a beautiful frangipani, fragrant and irresistible, but not always in bloom.
Many people will contribute to this blog - it will be advising you to fill the gap that is left in your heart after a break up with love for yourself until you radiate!