We all know the pain, it feels like you have been shot through the heart, for what ever reason you are suddenly no longer part of a couple. They might have cheated, you might have cheated, you might have just outgrown each other and someone finally had the guts to end it. So there you are in physical pain, you miss them, you can't sleep alone, you can't eat, you can't switch off your mind. You might try drinking to excess, or smoking or something to fill the time. What you need is time. You need to heal, to be kind to yourself, to talk to friends, get a massage, laugh, cry and deal with it. This time can be long or short. It is a period of mourning. The thing is, it does end. A time will come when you will embrace your independence and you will realise you are better off this way. So for as much pain that you are in, don't fight it, wallow in it, pamper yourself and let yourself be sad. Personally I find a rule of no contact to be best for healing, but if you had children I realise that would be difficult. You want to get through this time with dignity and self respect. Love your self and heal. Soon you will shine again and everyone will want a piece of you.
This article was written by Jenny Mason tweet her @jennymasonrocks or read her own blog www.jennymasonrocks.com
Many people will contribute to this blog - it will be advising you to fill the gap that is left in your heart after a break up with love for yourself until you radiate!