Unless you are very new to love and relationships, most people have had a relationship that didn't work out. When I look back at all my relationships whether it was me who did the dumping or even if I was dumped, way before the end, I have always had an inkling that it wasn't quite right. I won't go into particulars, but I would say in every past relationship there has been a moment where the bubble burst, where I went from madly in love, to how could they do that? I would say in every relationship I have been let down in one way or another. Be it excess partying, unfaithfulness, nastiness or selfishness, each and everyone did something that I knew was a deal breaker.
For a while after we broke up, I would kick myself for having stayed when I had seen the signs earlier. Perhaps I have an attitude of once you have put so much effort into a relationship, you should stick with it. There were definitely times in all my relationships when I had all the power and there were times when THEY have had the power, and I don't really know why that power swings back and forth (but it does). In most of my relationships, I had a point where I was going to leave, but I didn't. When I think about why I didn't, it was different each time. Some men begged me not to leave, some I thought I was still in love with and I thought that was more important than our differences, some I considered friends. In hindsight, I think most men were unfaithful, but that was not the cause of the break ups. I believe that is a symptom of a broken relationship.
Anyway I think it is important to identify when you are with Mr or Mrs Wrong, ask yourself these questions:-
1. Do I love them?
2. Do I like them?
3. Do they love me well?
4. Do they like me?
5. Do we support each other?
6. Do you both want the same big things? travel kids etc. ?
7. Do they make me feel good about myself?
8. Do you treat each other well through tough times?
9. Do you only have eyes for each other?
10. Are you friends?
If all of these are Yes, then I say stick with it. The real test is would they honestly answer yes to them all too? Good luck in finding Mr and Ms Right and dodging the wrongs.
Many people will contribute to this blog - it will be advising you to fill the gap that is left in your heart after a break up with love for yourself until you radiate!