Love the old fashioned way

Many of my friends are still single and dating. I only ever went on one date as a result of Internet dating and that was many years ago. I have never used Tinder and from a far it seems a bit cold. The thought of someone just callously swiping you away, somehow seems like the scene is very much based on appearances and not so much personality.  Don't get me wrong, I know attraction is very much a physical and chemical thing. But a picture on a screen does not establish a chemistry either. When I look at most male models, while I can see they are attractive and have ridiculously good bodies, I rarely fall in love with them. Even as a teenager reading Cosmo or Cleo, the descriptions didn't make me fall in love either. Wow they might have a compatible star sign or be into Prince like I was. It does not mean that if we met, it would be a fairy tale. Friends have told me that often internet dating is about a guy who is after just one thing and there is also the fear that they are still dating heaps of other people after you meet - they have a whole cattle market to choose from after all.

Relationships to me are about everything, chemistry, friendship, excitement, caring, physicality, humour, loyalty, everything. I think some elements without them all, would somehow feel quite empty. I know some very powerful relationships have begun on the internet and I guess my main point here is it doesn't really matter how you meet, it is about what happens when you do. My friends are too old to play games, but then don't want to have to cut straight to the chase and scare them away when only dating someone for just a couple of weeks. There seems to be a plethora of guys in their late 30s/early 40s who have Peter Pan syndrome, or maybe they just haven't met the right girl. When you really fall for someone, you don't stop and ask "Am I looking for a relationship?" or "Hang on this is getting to serious" like a fast sweeping river it takes you along and you have no choice, but to follow that current. Love is all consuming and all accepting. Tinder is the new personals column, but with much easier and instant mass access. I think love is better the old fashioned way, but maybe that is just me. My advice to singles, is to go out, have fun, meet eyes across the room, laugh, be merry, be happy being single - that's when I have always seemed to meet someone.