Sometimes when a relationship ends you know the reason why.
It could be that you had been drifting apart, one of you met somebody else, you were fighting a lot or you simply fell out of love. Heartbreak is never easy. However you can look at your break up to try and work out how you can do better next time. Do an autopsy on your relationship.I have had friends who have broken up with men and said he had felt like a brother in the end, while others have told me their breakup was because of a lack of friendship and that their sex life was still electric. Then of course there is the huge number of relationships that fall somewhere in between.
In some cultures arranged marriages are there to try and put two people with a lot in common together as there is sometimes the belief that 'romantic' love is not real anyway and when it disappears there will be no foundation for a relationship left. I have also heard people say the opposite that if there is not an electric spark at the beginning, the relationship is doomed.
So what is the answer? Sorry to be predictable but I think you need a bit of both. Of course you need to love the values of the people you are in a relationship with. But then you also have to have your heart skip a beat. Relationships do change over the years, They cannot sustain those first date feelings.
Would you really want them to?
At the same time a certain unconditional closeness can only come after a long period of dedication. Part of the butterflies at the start is the fear that you might not see them again.
A person I know lost his wife after over 30 years of marriage and he said he had taken her for granted. However isn't that what love is? Knowing and expecting that person will always be there, will always have your back?
Yes romance is important! Kiss, cuddle, be romantic and laugh. But also, be their best friend, talk, listen, cry and support each other.
Another big secret to great relationships is to never stop flirting. Be grateful for that special someone and argue nicely.
A harsh word can cut. deeply. It is possible to disagree with someone and still love them.
Many people will contribute to this blog - it will be advising you to fill the gap that is left in your heart after a break up with love for yourself until you radiate!